TRAUMA – The Silent Force That Shapes Our Lives

Are there stories within us we don’t remember – yet still live by?

Trauma isn’t always about major, dramatic events. Sometimes, it’s about small, repeated wounds – unacknowledged, unnamed. From early childhood to adulthood, we carry traces of experiences that were too much for us to process at the time. And often, we don’t even realise that what’s blocking us today may have started long ago.

Does trauma only affect childhood?

No. Trauma can occur at any stage of life.

But the experiences we go through in our early years – especially in the first 6 or 7 years – can leave particularly deep imprints. This is when our nervous system, sense of safety, and self-image are still forming. What we lived through back then still influences how we love, trust, respond to stress, and see ourselves today.

Even in adulthood, we remain vulnerable to trauma – especially in times of sudden change, loss, violence, abandonment, chronic stress, or helplessness.

Why is it important to understand the roots of trauma?

Because awareness brings choice.

When we begin to understand where our fears, reactions, and emotional patterns come from, we stop blaming ourselves.

Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?”, we begin to ask, “What happened to me?”

This shift opens the door to healing – a return to ourselves with kindness and clarity. Without this awareness, it’s easy to get stuck in repetitive cycles – anxious relationships, body tension, perfectionism, control, or emotional shutdown.

Is there ever a time in life when trauma stops affecting us?

Not really. Trauma doesn’t recognise age – but healing is always possible.

Even after years or decades, the body and mind may still hold memories of pain. That’s why it’s so important to look gently and bravely at our past. Therapy, bodywork, connecting with your inner child, mindfulness, and the support of another human being can all open the path to freedom.

Your story matters. You matter.

​The fact that something hurt you doesn’t mean you’re broken or “too sensitive.” It simply means that your body and heart tried to protect you the best way they could. Healing is possible – and you don’t have to go through it alone.

If you feel it’s time to look at your story with compassion, without judgement – I welcome you to Heart and Mind Therapy. Together, we can find the way back home to yourself.

💫 With love and care,

Ela – Heart and Mind Therapy