Gratitude – The Art of Presence and a Gateway to Deeper Living

“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.”– Alphonse Karr

Why should I feel grateful? Who am I even thanking?

This is a question many people ask – especially those who have experienced hardship, grief, or disappointment. When life feels like a constant struggle or survival mode, gratitude can seem like an emotional luxury. Others may wonder, “Who am I supposed to thank? No one gave me anything for free.”

But gratitude is not just a reaction to something nice. It’s a conscious decision to see life through the lens of presence and appreciation – for existence itself, for connection, for growth. Gratitude is not about external circumstances. It is an inner choice. A way of showing up to life with open eyes and an open heart.

Where does gratitude come from? Ancient roots of a universal practice

The origins of gratitude are ancient and universal. In indigenous cultures, daily rituals of giving thanks were woven into life: for the Earth, the ancestors, the seasons, the harvest, the sun and the rain. Gratitude was a way to maintain harmony with nature, spirit, and the community.

In monotheistic traditions, gratitude to God is an expression of humility and reverence. In Judaism, the prayer Modim anachnu lakh means “we thank You” and is central to worship. In Christianity, the word Eucharist literally means “thanksgiving.” In Islam, the phrase alhamdulillah – “praise be to God” – is used constantly. In Buddhism and Hinduism, gratitude is embedded in mindfulness and devotional practices.

Today, positive psychology – particularly the work of Martin Seligman and Robert Emmons – confirms what ancient wisdom already knew: practising gratitude leads to greater emotional resilience, stronger relationships, lower stress levels, and improved well-being. What was once spiritual ritual is now recognised as a powerful psychological tool.

A psychological and therapeutic perspective

From a therapeutic point of view, gratitude acts like an inner compass, gently redirecting our focus from what’s wrong to what’s here. It helps activate new neural pathways in the brain, moving us from survival mode into states of balance, calm, and growth.

In therapy, gratitude:

• supports emotional healing, especially after trauma or loss,

• strengthens self-worth and safety,

• reduces rumination and negative self-talk,

• deepens connection with others and with the self.

For those with low self-esteem, cultivating gratitude can transform the inner dialogue:👉 “Instead of focusing on what I didn’t do, I see what I’ve already given to myself and others.”

Gratitude is not denial. It doesn’t pretend pain doesn’t exist. But it widens the emotional landscape, making space for the light alongside the dark.

A spiritual and existential reflection

Gratitude is a prayer of the heart, even when no words are spoken. It is a way of aligning with something greater – whether you call it God, Spirit, Nature, or Life itself.

It is an act of surrender and trust – even in the face of uncertainty. It says:

“I may not understand everything yet, but I trust that this has meaning. And I give thanks.”

From an existential view, gratitude affirms life as it is – mysterious, fragile, sacred. It anchors us in the present moment, reminding us: “I am here. And that is enough.”

Everyday sources of gratitude

You don’t need a perfect life to practise gratitude. You only need to notice what’s already here. Gratitude can begin with:

• Your body – breathing, moving, feeling.

• The Earth – air, water, nourishment.

• Relationships – even difficult ones, which teach boundaries and truth.

• Experiences – joys and struggles that shape you.

• Your emotions – which show that you are alive and connected.

• Your soul – the quiet voice guiding you towards authenticity.

Many paths, one essence

Gratitude may come through prayer, journaling, meditation, walking in nature, speaking with a loved one, or watching the sunrise.

The source may vary, but the essence is the same: Presence. Awareness. An open heart.

Gratitude is not a reward for when life is good – it’s a pathway to meet life as it is. It doesn’t ask us to be perfect – only to be present.

An invitation

Today, instead of waiting for something extraordinary, notice something ordinary and call it a gift. Give thanks – not to receive more, but to realise you already have enough.

You might like to write down three small things you’re grateful for. Or just place your hand on your heart, close your eyes, and whisper softly: “Thank you.”